Posts by Seeking Knowledge

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Lost, Confused, and Hurting .....

by Daizzy in

hi everyone, i don't mean to burden anyone with my problems, but hope that i can get some feedback.

in sept. i met a guy whom i assumed was happily married.

we worked together for 4 weeks at the first job and became pretty close friends.by then i already knew how much i was liking him.

Seeking Knowledge

He's riding the fence...he wants someone else to take the responsibility for his actions. If he waits on his wife to instigate the divorce then he's not going anywhere for awhile. Do you really want to spend energy that could be best spent elsewhere waiting on this guy? You've got 2 kids to think of now, live for them.

I get 2 different lines of what he is going to do back and forth.

Know it well. You've got a long road ahead of you, but get as much information from this site & others to determine your best course of action. Of course no one can tell you WHAT to do, only opinions. Having "been there done that" I can appreciate how you feel, and like I said earlier, I hope he proves me wrong. Doesn't sound like he will so far tho.

SK

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Lost, Confused, and Hurting .....

by Daizzy in

hi everyone, i don't mean to burden anyone with my problems, but hope that i can get some feedback.

in sept. i met a guy whom i assumed was happily married.

we worked together for 4 weeks at the first job and became pretty close friends.by then i already knew how much i was liking him.

Seeking Knowledge

I can offer only from your standpoint, that being a Non-JW involved with a JW. My ex...lived the lie, took me with it because I didn't question his faith (none of my business) it was not until I became pregnant that I began to see what he was really doing. He lived the double life, I never met his parents and I was kept at arms length in that respect the whole time. I thought it was due to me being older than him & already being divorced with a child (that's what he kept telling me). He wanted to get married, bought the ring, everything. Needless to say, the pull of the cult, and his family was too much and he went back into the fold. He got married within 6 months and has recently become a father again. Where does this leave me? I have a son with this man and he is doing everything he can to raise him as a JW. The battle is the worse thing I've ever experienced and it's not something I wish to put my son through. I'm trying to do my very best, but fighting him and the organization is no fun. If he has to "do the right thing" then he's not going to do it with you. Chances are he does love you, and is no doubt having problems with his conscience, but he's still married, therefore "they" still have a hold on him and it seems to me, that hold is more than they can take. They usually bow to the pressure and you'll be left out.

Good luck on this, I hope he proves me wrong for your sake & your child's sake.

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All I hear about Jehovah's Witnesses..........

by Redneckgurl in

jw
friends

hey everybody!

hope those who are celebrating the holidays are having a good one, and for those who aren't, hope you are enjoying your freedom!.

i have to tell you about these things i have heard recently.

Seeking Knowledge

anytime I mentioned my ex is a JW I get that "oh" and the understanding nod...then I get asked what the hell I was thinking & end up explaining that I'm really not insane....really.....

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HELP !!!:::DOES ANYONE KNOW GUITAR CORDS

by vitty in

just bought our son his first xmas present (he's only 17!!!!!

)....an electric guitar.. but we don't have any idea how to play and the 1st step teaching books are all out.. can anyone please tell us 2 or 3 cords for a popular song that he can try strumming along to?.

we've tried seaching the net but it's too complicated.. we don't know anything so you'll have to be really simple and basic !.

Seeking Knowledge

I was going to suggest Tabs as well, that's how my daughter is learning her electric guitar...altho she did play the violin for a couple years so she knows the chords. Go to any Music store in your area and they should lead you in the right direction!

Enjoy!!

SK

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JW Baby

by Seeking Knowledge in

jw
friends

my ex's wife just had their new baby (they are both jw's).

turns out that the baby has been born with blood poisoning, an underdeveloped liver and severe jaundice.

it's the rh factor problem, she was warned, and refused the shot she could have taken to possibly prevent this.

Seeking Knowledge

thanks Scully...I have thought about it!! I have to say, when I heard the baby was born, I got all upset again, my heart still hurts just a little, but when I found out all of this I realized how lucky I was to not marry this idiot, God was watching out for me for sure, well God and my own doubts but seeing my ex as he is today, I didn't run fast enough. I did get a wonderful little boy to complete MY family, I'd have to say that's the ONLY good thing that came out of my association with the Jehovah's Witnesses!

SK

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JW Baby

by Seeking Knowledge in

jw
friends

my ex's wife just had their new baby (they are both jw's).

turns out that the baby has been born with blood poisoning, an underdeveloped liver and severe jaundice.

it's the rh factor problem, she was warned, and refused the shot she could have taken to possibly prevent this.

Seeking Knowledge

I can tell you, from personal experience, and one of the first signs of my ex's dealings back with the JW's...we had our son in for minor surgery, and the question came up for blood, he snatched the paperwork away from me and put NO on the form. I lost my mind, I told him he didn't have the right to make that decision without me, and who was he to decide whether my son had blood to save his life or not? Up until that moment, he had no interest in paperwork, making the appointment, etc...not until they came to that part. It took the doctor, the head of the hospital, etc to come in there and inform him that the minor surgery involved would more than likely not involve blood. As it was, I demanded new paperwork & signed it myself. I don't friggen think so!! Anyway, he'll make sure they refuse any transfusions. Self righteous bunch of.......this all just makes me ill.

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Can anyone help me? Loved one being torn away

by heart broken in

jw
friends

i am not going to divulge any names or contact details as i do not what this being taken much further.. i will cut to the chase, i have fallen in love with a jehova's witness.

i am not a jehova's witness... can you see where this is going?

i have been told that her being in love with me is strictly against jw "policy"... now, i have been scowering the net for days now, becomming increasingly insomniate and i have to admit, i have found nothing to support this warning.

Seeking Knowledge

Sorry to hear that Heartbroken...but at least you found it all out before you got married and/or had children.

Chin up, you'll find someone who will make you happy and hopefully will have beliefs you can both live with.

SK

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JW Baby

by Seeking Knowledge in

jw
friends

my ex's wife just had their new baby (they are both jw's).

turns out that the baby has been born with blood poisoning, an underdeveloped liver and severe jaundice.

it's the rh factor problem, she was warned, and refused the shot she could have taken to possibly prevent this.

Seeking Knowledge

Forgot to add: She was told by her doctor that they are to have no more children. Apparently before she became pregnant with this one, she had suffered a couple miscarriages, which the RH factor increases with each pregnancy, so she KNEW the consequences.

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JW Baby

by Seeking Knowledge in

jw
friends

my ex's wife just had their new baby (they are both jw's).

turns out that the baby has been born with blood poisoning, an underdeveloped liver and severe jaundice.

it's the rh factor problem, she was warned, and refused the shot she could have taken to possibly prevent this.

Seeking Knowledge

From what I understand, when the offer was made for the shot, she refused it based on her religion. She was crying at work for about a month afterwards, tormented no doubt, but continued to refuse the shot. We all hoped for the best, it's not the baby's fault of course. It's tragic at best. I don't know if the baby is doing good, or what his outcome is, but I will know more today I hope as I must deal with the ex in picking up my son. Needless to say, this has brought some issues to the top in our custody case.

Thanks for the info everyone, I was hoping for better news.

SK

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JW Baby

by Seeking Knowledge in

jw
friends

my ex's wife just had their new baby (they are both jw's).

turns out that the baby has been born with blood poisoning, an underdeveloped liver and severe jaundice.

it's the rh factor problem, she was warned, and refused the shot she could have taken to possibly prevent this.

Seeking Knowledge

agreed. It's sad to know that maybe they could have prevented this....they did at least know it was a possiblity...their mindset will never cease to amaze me.